What to do With Your Baby's Ashes after Cremation: Gentle Options to Consider.

It can be a confusing, distressing and overwhelming time trying to make decisions about what to do with your baby’s ashes after cremation. Some parents know quite soon after their loss and make a quick and clear decision, while others take weeks, months or even years to decide what feels right. There is no right or wrong answer, and you can take as long as you need.

This page gently explains some of the options for your baby’s cremated remains, including keeping your baby’s ashes in a keepsake urn, scattering them in a meaningful place, or interring them in a permanent resting place.

Understanding Your Options for Your Baby’s Cremated Remains

When you are thinking about what to do with your baby’s ashes, it can help to know that you do not have to decide everything at once. Some families feel comforted by keeping their baby’s ashes close by, while others prefer to scatter or inter them in a special place. Many parents choose a combination of these options.

A lasting way to remember your baby is to have a portion or all of their ashes placed inside a handcrafted porcelain cremation urn. These keepsake urns are beautiful to hold and provide an enduring way to honour and celebrate your baby’s life, no matter how short.

Keeping Your Baby’s Ashes in a Keepsake Urn

Some parents choose to keep their baby’s ashes together in one urn, while others choose to gently divide the ashes so that different family members can each have a small keepsake for their baby’s ashes.

You might decide to:

• Keep all of your baby’s ashes in a single urn

• Keep a small portion (for example, a tablespoon amount) as a personal keepsake

• Use a portion of the ashes for memorial jewellery and place some in a porcelain baby urn

  
  

Keeping your baby’s ashes in a keepsake urn for your baby, can offer a tangible, comforting way to feel connected and that your baby is close. Some parents like to hold the urn in their hands, keep it in a special place in their home, or carry a small pebble or heart urn in a handbag or pocket.

Scattering Your Baby’s Ashes in a Meaningful Place

Some parents choose to scatter all of their baby’s ashes, or keep a small portion and scatter the remainder in a place that holds special meaning.

This might be:

• A favourite beach, park or garden

• A place connected to your pregnancy or your baby’s memory

• A location that feels peaceful and significant for you

  
  

You may decide to keep a small amount of your baby’s ashes in a small urn or memorial jewellery, and scatter the rest.

There is no timeline and the decision should not be rushed – some families scatter soon after the funeral or memorial, while others wait until it feels right.

Interring Your Baby’s Ashes in a Permanent Resting Place

Other parents choose to inter their baby’s ashes. Interring ashes is the process of placing cremated remains in a permanent resting place, such as:

• A cemetery

• A niche wall or columbarium

• A mausoleum

• A private garden or woodland

  
  

Some families choose to inter most of their baby’s ashes and keep a small portion in a keepsake urn at home. Interment can provide a dedicated place to visit, reflect and remember, while a keepsake urn allows you to keep your baby close in your everyday surroundings.

Choosing a Baby Urn That Feels Right for You

It is a very personal decision when choosing the type of urn to place your precious baby or infant’s ashes in. As you think about what to do with your baby’s ashes, it can help to gently imagine:

• Where you might want your baby’s ashes to be kept

• Whether you would like to hold the urn in your hand or keep it in your handbag

• Whether you would like to see it every day on a shelf or table in your home, perhaps surrounded by other precious items

  
  

At My Pebble Urn, our handcrafted porcelain urns are designed to blend naturally and beautifully into your home environment. They do not look like a “typical” urn – more like a piece of art or sculpture. This can feel especially important if you want a keepsake for your baby’s ashes that is both discreet and deeply meaningful.

Depending on the volume of your baby’s ashes and after gentle discussions with Eliza, you will be able to decide which size and style of urn is most meaningful for you.

Taking the Time You Need to Decide What to Do With Your Baby’s Ashes

When you are deciding what to do with your baby’s ashes, it is completely understandable if you feel unsure, conflicted or overwhelmed. You do not have to rush this decision. There is no right or wrong choice, only what feels right for you, your baby and your family.

You can:

• Keep your baby’s ashes in a keepsake urn

• Scatter some or all of the ashes in a meaningful place

• Inter them in a permanent resting place

• Or choose a combination of these options over time

  
  

My Pebble Urn heart shaped medium & small urn with inscriptions.